The peak of engagement season has come and gone, but that doesn't mean folks have stopped popping the big question to their sweethearts. While asking for one's hand in marriage is romantic in and of itself, people often want to make the moment as memorable as possible. And now that we're in the age of social media, people are getting more creative with their proposals than ever before. That's why today I'm bringing a few tips on how to make saying those four words a success.
The First Thing to Consider: When and When
You've spent months or years with a special someone. As time has passed you've realized that this is the person you want to share the rest of your life with. Hopefully, in the time that you have been together, the two of you have been able to get a good understanding of each other's values, financial statuses and goals for the future. If you find that these things properly align, you may want to take that next step.
When considering putting a ring on it, make sure that your reasons for wanting to do so are pure. Do it because you want to embark on the future with them as life partners, for better or for worse. Don't do it simply because you've been with them long enough and it seems like the thing to do. Don't do it because of social expectations or expectations you've had for yourself at this point in your life. After you've searched your heart and your motives, if you still want to make the move, go for it!
But wait--when are you going to ask? Traditionally, engagement season is between November and February. This is why, unsurprisingly, Thanksgiving, Christmas and Valentine's Day are especially popular proposal times. However, you have other options aside from these favorite dates. You may want to consider using a birthday or another special date that is significant to both of you, such as an anniversary. Though, if you really want to catch your loved one by surprise, opt for an ordinary day with no special meaning attached to it whatsoever. If they say yes, then that day will become special for the both of you forever.
The Next Thing to Think About: Where
Just about anyone who's been proposed to can remember the exact place where their special moment unfolded. That's why a lot of thought should be put into where to pop the question. If you and your love are sentimental types, you may want to select a location that has a deep meaning for both of you. You can never go wrong with places where big firsts happened. Consider the place where you had your first date, shared your first kiss, or even where the two of you first met.
Some people are more concerned with finding a place that's photogenic. So long as it's pretty, it's perfect. Fortunately, scenic locations aren't too hard to come by. Though, depending on where you are in the world and the time of year, you may have to travel to get the setting just right. If your budget allows it, you can go the extravagant route and fly your partner to France, Italy or Jamaica. Nature lovers may like the appeal of popping the question in the majesty of the outdoors. In that case, places like Yosemite National Park or the Grand Canyon may appeal to you. Of course, every state has it's beautiful spots. Local beaches, parks, museums and theaters can work just as well.
And Finally: How
Once you've figured out when you're going to do it and where you're going do it, you have to think about what you're going to do! The possibilities are endless, and a quick Google search will provide you with tons of ideas. Depending on your beloved's temperament, you may want to keep it simple or make it spectacular. For the loved one who cherishes simplicity (or moreso privacy), consider the following ideas:
Proposing during a date at a favorite restaurant. Do the traditional trick of putting the ring in the champagne or dessert (but make sure it doesn't get swallowed!).
Make it fun with a scavenger hunt. Make them find items that symbolize key aspects of your relationship.
Take them somewhere they've always wanted to go, like to see their favorite artist in concert or that Broadway show they've heard rave reviews about. Pop the question after the show.
Leave a message: write it in a loving note, scrawl it on a mirror, or write it out with rose petals or candles.
If your sweetheart doesn't mind being in the spotlight or just enjoys excitement, you may want to do something more attention-grabbing:
Flash mob! They were all the rage a few years back, and they're still a fun way to say "marry me" now. Grab friends and family and let them help you pop the question with a bang!
If you're really daring, you may want to do it in a crowd. Ask at a sporting event or a live show.
Take their breath away by whisking them away on a hot air balloon ride, plummeting with them on a sky-diving tour or bungee jumping.
In the end, whatever you decide to do will be special so long as it's heartfelt and true. It doesn't really matter the method you choose. You're telling the person you love that you can't imagine life without them and won't have it any other way. That's more than enough.